“Ohhhh what??” I said to myself after pulling a Daily Guidance from Your Angels Oracle card and getting the Let Your Past Go card. I had been feeling some tension and stress. I wasn’t sure where it was coming from and so I had drawn the card.
My son is soon to be getting married to an amazing woman. I’m helping with the wedding plans, but that is sheer joy to me, so where are these negative feelings coming from?
I’ve done so much work on myself in the previous ten years what could I possibly need to let go of from my past now? I had started from a place of being in a marriage that was not happy, being in a job I hated, and drinking too much daily. Then, I was introduced to some amazing books Conversations with God-Neale Donald Walsch being at the top! that I started reading daily. I watched The Secret movie and listen to the CD version of the book The Secret. I also write in a daily gratitude journal.
AND I’ve become highly skilled in the art of letting go, which required quite a few releasing rituals! I let go of my wreck of a marriage, quite a few mutual friends, a home that I had spent many hours and more money decorating, a very stable job, negative feelings about past relationships, about my childhood, about my relationship with my mother.
And now I owned my dream business, found the love of my life and living a dream life full of happiness, joy, and love.
This life required an immense amount of Letting Go. When we work on ourselves we realize that there is so much that is “wrong” because we hold on to stuff that no longer serves us. People say “aw! Just let it go!” but it can definitely be a little more involved and difficult than that, you know…easier SAID than done. I had to let go of perfectionism expectations of myself, the fear of being alone, the fear of failing in a business I was totally new to, let go of all the anger I had toward my ex-husband for not being who I thought he should be for our marriage to work. Let go of anger toward my best-friend for actually putting the stake in the heart of what was left beating in my otherwise dead marriage.
I’m talking about a LOT of letting go.
Some of the releasing rituals that really help me
New Moon Burning Ritual
One of my first experiences with releasing rituals was taught to me by a new friend in my metaphysical circle. I took my wedding dress and on the night of a New Moon I wrote a letter to my soon-to-be-ex husband forgiving him for everything that he had “done to me” and all the ways I felt he had failed me/us. I started a fire in a fire pit, I read the letter out loud and then I threw my dress and the letter in the fire.
This is a very powerful ritual and I highly recommend it for some major shifts in your life. Have something to release? Anger, hurt feelings, sadness? A New Moon Burning Ritual can truly create an opportunity for healing.
Out to Sea
This very beneficial ritual can be used in combination with the burning ritual or as a stand-alone. After I had completed that first burning ritual I went to the Santa Monica Pier and I took the ashes that I had gathered after the ritual and walked them to the very end of the pier and I released them out to sea.
I have also used this ritual by writing down what it is that I want to release and then dropping it into a river or dropping it into the ocean. The key is to make sure that you are really feeling the emotions when you write down the issues and then physically feel yourself becoming lighter as you release them.
Walking the Labyrinth
If you are lucky enough to live near a labyrinth then please take advantage of it and experience the wonderful release you can receive from a labyrinth walk. This is definitely a meditative space to enjoy and many people use a labyrinth walk for many different types of meditations.
For a labyrinth release-again a New Moon is definitely a great time to do this, however anytime is a great time-as you are making your trek into the labyrinth go over in your head what it is that you wish to release, what it is that no longer serves you, the hurt, the anger, the worry. When you get to the center of the labyrinth take a moment to reflect on why you want or need to let it go. As you begin to make your way out give thanks and gratitude for how the situation helped you to grow and that you are now releasing it. I like to make a mantra and repeat it over and over as I walk back to the beginning.
“Thank you, universe, for helping me to release my feelings of anger toward my ex.” “That relationship helped me to grow in so many ways and for that I am grateful” “I release this anger that no longer serves me.” “I let that shit go.” Use words that work for you and feel your emotions and the heaviness in your body get lighter and lighter.
This is a very powerful ritual that is especially useful if what you are releasing/letting go is a person as this will cut and release the emotional cords that have been attached between the two of you. Emotional cords attach through any relationship where there is strong emotion/connection, and it can also happen when you have a strong emotional attachment to a thing (like the home I gave up in my divorce).
In this ritual you will want to get into a quiet and meditative place (although I’ve also done it “Quick & Dirty” style which I’ll explain in a moment). When you are relaxed and calm, call in a trusted guide, your higher power, or an angel or saint that you associate with being strong (Archangel Michael is especially helpful for me).
Once you feel the presence of whomever you’ve called in to help you then focus on who/what you want to release and imagine that you have a huge and magically charged sword (again Archangel Michael is great for this as he has an incredibly strong sword) and imagine some cords or ropes that are attached between yourself and the other person/object. Now, raise the sword and imagine that you are slicing through those cords like a hot knife through butter. Cut the cords in front of you, behind you and above your head and under your feet.
For the Quick & Dirty version just close your eyes, imagine the other person/object, grab that sword in your mind and quickly cut through the cords all around/above/under you.
It is a valuable practice when you are working any Releasing Rituals that you bless the person or thing you are releasing with love. Here is a nice blessing to use: May you be filled with loving kindness. May you be well. May you be peaceful and at ease. May you be happy. (Ancient Tibetan Buddhist blessing)
Realizing and Releasing
I read over what the card said “The burden of carting your past around has made you weary…”
What? My ex-husband came to mind. No… I’ve completely released all the negative emotion I had around my marriage and my anger toward him. What could it be? I delved a little deeper…this started coming up when I was thinking about how happy I am that my son has found a wonderful woman to love and who loves him…deeper…I wish my ex could find a love like I have found and like my son has found…deeper…I feel guilty because I am so happy and in love, but I was recently told that he is still so angry and sad.
Ah! That’s it! I’m feeling guilty.
I realized what I was feeling and accepted and loved myself and then I let go with a Cord-Cutting releasing ritual. I feel it is very important that we forgive ourselves and love and accept ourselves. Also, when we release it is most beneficial to release with love. After doing the ritual I immediately began to feel whole and happy again.
We hope that these releasing rituals help you in your quest to become whole and happy.
We’d love to see how they’ve helped you! Please share in the comments.